Top Dating Do's
Pick the Right Woman
One of the most common problems early on in the dating game is nerves, and these come from many places. Men chronically find themselves teetering on the edge of insecure ledges on first dates; but more often than not, this is the result of men picking women who make them exceptionally nervous because they are either extraordinarly attractive, or, in the man's mind, out of his league. Men have a habit of picking women for their looks over personal compatibility. True, it's not always the case, but it makes the nerves worse when it is. So, begin by picking a dynamic woman first.
If you're nervous because you think she's not only perfect but perfect for you, try these tips to calm down and pull off a smooth and fulfilling first date.
Do Underdo It
Taking her out to an ultra-chic restaurant is usually not as impressive as you think. Firstly, it may not suit her taste, and if you pick up the tab, it can leave her feeling like she owes you something. This is a lopsided and unproductive dynamic. Instead, take her out for reasonable coffee at your favorite spot. This shows her that you don't feel the need to overcompensate with a flashy setting, and that just each others' company is more than enough.
Here are some more ideas for low-key dates.
Keep It Just the Two of You
Sometimes, if either party is unsure of their date, he or she will want to include friends in the dynamic to diffuse "getting to know you" pressure. But rather than diffuse the pressure, it just takes away the opportunity to get to know each other. If she wants to meet up with her friends on a first date, unless you are really, really feeling it, your best bet is to wish her a good night and perhaps meet the crew on a third or fourth outing when you've gotten to know her just around you. When you are ready to meet her friends, remember to stay confident, polite, and honest.
Engage Your Own Interests
You might think it's smartest to gear your date set-up toward what will perfectly suit your woman's taste, but if this conflicts with your own interests, you probably won't end up the most delightful date partner. It's just as important that you enjoy your dates as much as she does. So, keep your own preferences in mind and try to find some middle ground. In the end you will both most likely end up exposing each other to new activities, people, and hobbies that you wouldn't have jumped into otherwise.
